Friday, November 14, 2025

My Cancer in Bullet Points #2

Life is a series of waiting.

So many of you have reached out and I appreciate each card, email, text message, phone call, and get-together. Thank you! For those who are faithfully praying for me, thank you!

I'm going to update my breast cancer diagnosis and treatment at my blog which is where you are now. For those kind souls who want to know about the latest events on my journey, this is where you'll find them --- in bullet points. No paragraphs of details, just the facts (and perhaps a few tidbits of reflection).

* Yesterday, Carl and I got to spend all day from 9:30 AM till 5:00 PM at the Duke Cancer Center.

* Waiting, waiting. While Carl and I sat in the lobby of the clinic, I opened my newest journal --- my Cancer Journal --- and wrote about how life is a series of waiting.

* After 40 minutes of waiting, we met with the nurse and then the surgeon --- part of my Cancer Team.



* I thought we might sit around a table and drink Earl Grey and eat shortbread, so I dressed for the ocassion in my skirt, sweater, and boots. I'd even sprayed on some perfume.

* Alas! No one warned me that this meet-and-greet would have me in a hosptital gown seated on the plastic exam chair; there had been no need to dress to impress!

* As I sat in one of those flimsy how-are-you-supposed-to-tie-this? gowns, the surgeon discussed surgery and explained the procedure.

* She even drew a diagram of where the two masses/tumors are in my left breast (one is 2.7cm and the other is 2.8cm).

* The next appointment, which took place in the afternoon, was with the radiation oncologist group. The doctors explained radiation, the side effects, and how often it would be done.

* The medical oncologist was the last appointment. She said surgery, radiation, and possible chemo were not on the table until . . .

* What?!

* Due to the pathology report, and what it shows, there's concern over a large and not very elegant lymph node in my armpit.

* As we know, our lymph nodes can carry disease to the rest of our body.

* She said it's pointless to construct a treatment plan with surgery, possible chemo, and radiation before having both a bone and CT body scan to see whether or not the cancer has spread.

* She drew a diagram with the three possible routes my treatment will take depending on the results of the staging scans.

* Mentally exhausted, Carl and I had more questions than answers after our clinic day.

* We went home to our two pups, Harley and Bella, who were wondering why we had been gone so long. Yet, they were happy we had made it home in time to feed them dinner.

* Today, my Duke chart let me know that an appointment for the Body Scan (CT) has been scheduled. It will be on November 26th.

* The Bone Scan has yet to be scheduled.

Nuggets of Blessings

* Each member of the team was caring, and extending empathy to Daniel's short life and death from cancer treatments. The medical oncologist cried and then passed around tissues. As y'all know, my journey is entwined with what I have already been through with my son Daniel who was diagnosed with neuroblastoma when he was three-years-old.

* The setting sun over the Duke Medical Center's parking deck (we had to park on the very top floor where the sun does shine) was warm and calming. The sky glowed with the serenity of peach and orange.

* For the last ten days, the daily Bible verses (from Bible Study Tools) that have entered my in-box have all been about God's peace. So I took the hint and have focused on the peace he provides, a wonderful gift.

Thanks for reading! If you have read this whole post, you deserve a mug of Earl Grey and a buttery piece of shortbread. (No need to wear a hospital gown.)

22 comments:

Carolyn Skelton said...

Thank you for sharing your journey. It is very important to trust your medical team. We are going through this cancer journey with my husband as he was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer Labor Day. He’s not a surgical candidate at this point in time. He’s had his third chemo on Thursday the 6th (his are every other week) and hope to shrink his tumor enough for surgery. Keeping you in my prayers

Anonymous said...

Golly, I’’m glad the peace verses are sustaining. I felt frustration on your behalf at not having a Concise plan yet but I totally understand why a plan isn’t forthcoming yet. I am reminded that I have to trust HIS plan. We with fixer personalities want to fix things for those we care about, haha even when we have zero control over their situation. It sounds like you have a very caring team and a boatload of us who will be ‘holding the rope’ and praying fervently for your journey.

Anonymous said...

Journey is the operative word here. So many factors to be considered after they are determined. You are a very beautiful child of God who has experienced the worse in life already. You will find peace with understanding your treatment course once you know it. I am awe struck and so inspired of your love and kindness of others who are on your team. Praise be to God! You are so precious Alice! So precious! Thank you for sharing!

Deena Adams said...

Thanks for sharing an update on your appointments. Continuing to pray for you and your medical team to have wisdom moving forward. For God's perfect plan and timing in all things!

Anonymous said...

Hi Alice. Your day sounds absolutely exhausting and you definitely deserved that cup of tea and lots of other goodies too! Thank you for sharing your life with us. It helps. It helps us to deal with our own unique set of circumstances and problems. Oh, this is Sandy Provenzano commenting. I'm still planning to email you later this week! Again, thank you for your openness and sharing.

Ann Tatlock said...

I marked my calendar on the 26th so you can be sure I'll be praying about the body scan. No matter which of those three routes this journey may take, we'll be right there walking with you and praying you along. Love you lots, my friend!

Kim McHugh said...

Thank you for sharing with us. Prayers and hugs continuing for you. ❤️

Anonymous said...

So sorry you are having to go through this. So many I know that have. Thank God for the availability of treatment in our area. May you be surrounded by the love of God who sees our need. Sending a hug.

Susan Mullins said...

You are such a great writer. I felt like I was there with you. You know I’ve been there before you (just the “other blue” place 😉). I’m with you in this now too. Many prayers for you and Carl.

Anonymous said...

Like Susan Mullins I was there 18 years ago last week. It was my 60th birthday present. At was at the dark blue place too. Many hugs, prayers and much love. Pam

Kelly Watson Young said...

Your writing had me feeling the plastic of the chairs , the draft of the gown and the frustration with the length of the process. Praying with you and for you.

Anonymous said...

Thank you for the bullet points but also the rawness of facing waiting to find out and see the full picture and feeling the plastic exam table
I am holding you in my heart and Carl too
Love barb

Anonymous said...

Try and keep a positive attitude in your new journey. I know that’s much easier said than done, but I truly do think it helps. Know that, through every step of your journey, God is by your side. My prayers are with you.

Anonymous said...

We will be keeping you in our prayers. Hope all goes well with your surgery, with your surgeons and your nurses. I had breast cancer about 15 years ago. It's a journey. Love, your friend Pam (Paula's Mom)

Anonymous said...

Alice, I know this time is stressful & confusing. I found that when the plan was determined, it was easier. Continuing love and prayers as you go through this difficult time. ❤️🙏🏻

Anonymous said...

We send our prayers and our love

Jeff and Harriet
🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

Anonymous said...

Alice. I am so sorry you are having to go through this. Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers and I will hold you close in my heart. Is there anything I can do to help otherwise? You only need ask if so. You know we are here close by. Love you! 🥰

Anonymous said...

Sorry Alice. This is from Karen Kolbinsky. My name didn’t show up on the comment. You have my email address. Please let me know if there’s anything at all I can do to help. I hope you are covered there and am grateful to know Carl is able to be with you through this time. Praying God give you grace and strengthen your faith as you walk through this dark valley. He never leaves or forsakes us. Hold on through darkness to what you have seen in the Light

Ane Mulligan said...

Alice, I'm so sorry for this hiccup in your journey. I'm praying for the Lord to give your team wisdom and for your healing. You have more stories to write for Him.

Michelle Myer said...

I’ll bet you looked cute — you always have when I would see you during our Durham years.
I would also have shown up for my consult in a similarly cute outfit, hoping that the team would see in my lovely clothing choices how very prepared I was to make this journey. I hope that the folks whom you and Carl passed on your way to the parking garage were impressed by your “fit” and that you are feeling good about the pace of the staging and planning parts of the diagnostic odyssey.

Debra DuPree Williams said...

Alice,
Adding our prayers to all those praying. May you feel His presence throughout this journey.

Anonymous said...

Alice-know that I’m thinking of you and hoping for a positive outcome for you. If there is anything I can do to help please don’t hesitate to reach out to me. Iris