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Wednesday, January 21, 2009


I remember my friend said she hoped Daniel wouldn't die on
her birthday. He didn't. He died on my cousin's wife's
birthday and the birthday that belonged to one of Daniel's
favorite nurses. Groundhog Day is the day he breathed his last.
That silly day when grown men try to decipher whether
or not a little furry creature sees his shadow.
It's one of those days when you don't know what to do.... Not exactly
a card-sending day like Valentine's or Christmas.

Twelve years ago Daniel left our lives by dying. Twelve years later
I still feel my stomach knot as Groundhog day approaches...

Through his short life of four years and prolonged death of over a
week, I have learned so much. I've learned life is short and each
moment counts and one minute might be all I get. I've learned
to be real, to not waste time trying to get grouchy people to
like me, and to hold those I love closely. I've learned that
a mother never ever forgets her child or the day he was born or
the day he died.

You know what? I would rather be blissful and ignorant than to
have to be so wise.

Daniel in Heaven, I miss you. I miss what you would have brought
to my life as you played and grew and loved me.

Every day.


Sassy Sistah said...

I'm reading "Rain Song" as I fry chicken and make potato salad this gray Saturday afternoon. I live near Raleigh. I absolutely love the book, Alice. It's wonderful and I can't wait to get back to it.

I was so impressed by your writing, about 1/3 of the way through, I just had to stop and see if you had a website. I'm looking forward to reading more - of both the book and your website.

I didn't realize you had lost a child. My heart breaks for you and your family. I lost a son too - seven years ago now. And as his birthday approaches - Feb. 13 - along with the holidays that just passed, and then the day of his death...and on and on it goes...I think I may know a little bit about how you're feeling now.

Thank you for your wonderful writing. I feel like I've "met" a new "friend."

~Sandy in Clayton

Alice J. Wisler said...


You have made my day! Thanks for posting your kind words about Rain Song. I love hearing from readers!

However, I am so sorry that you, too, have had a son die. We even share the same anniversary month of our children's death.

Take care, Sandy. Perhaps we can meet one day!


Sassy Sistah said...

Just wanted to let you know I'm thinking of you today. (((HUGS)))